Sunday, 23 September 2012

Hiding?

I guess people hide because they want to temporarily break their connection with society, because they're ashamed, or guilty, or afraid. Without knowing the exact circumstance, it's pretty safe to say that the need to hide casts doubt over the innocence of an individual. If you're truthful, sincere, and innocent, why should you hide? You shouldn't.

I have a stat counter on my blog which logs the IP addresses of visitors - that way I can see where everyone's looking from. IP addresses cover a pretty large area generally, but sometimes they cover a smaller area. And even though I have all of your IP addresses, I couldn't trace you down to your exact address, unless the police were involved. And for that reason you only have to worry if you've done something wrong.

Someone has been visiting my blog, quite regularly, and each time has made a concerted effort to hide their location, via a variety of proxy sites. The fact that I know this states that your proxies aren't doing a very good job. My statistics just show the path you've taken on my blog, after your proxy address. Oh and your IP address too.

If you don't want me to see you, don't look here. It's quite simple. :)

17 comments:

Trevor said...

It seems quite clear to me that the warped individual who is doing this is known to you , Holly , and that you have decided that you do not want them to contact you in any shape or form . Furthermore , they know this to be the case ; it has been made explicit . For someone then to keep looking in on your life after they have been told to remove themselves entirely is the act of a stalker .
Whoever is doing this needs to know without equivocation that such actions are both morally indefensible and Illegal . Given what you have said , Holly , the individual concerned is probably reading this , so I shall speak direct : this must stop and it must stop now . Not tomorrow , not next week , not next month , but NOW . You should be utterly ashamed of your actions which amount to little short of harassment ; though the fact that you continue to do as you are doing demonstrates that you are without conscience or understanding of the meaning of the word ' shame ' . So , if nothing else I have said means anything to you , let me say this : Holly is not without friends and friends who know the ways of the world , friends in positions of authority , friends who exercise influence . Moreover , friends who will not stand idly by and see her hurt . Think very carefully as to how you next proceed : a public revelation of your behaviour and actions is staring you in the face : stop now or accept the inevitable consequences of your actions . This is no longer a private matter .

mercury said...

The interesting question for me is, whether this person isn't only a security fanatic, who uses proxies generally to 'protect' his privacy.

mercury said...

Trevor ~ You overegged the pudding. A real stalker will perfect his hood and carry on. The only danger is, that it's identity (name, address)will be visible. And when he's in America or another foreign place he won't be bothered too much, because 'stalking' in this way isn't culpable.
Holly ~ There are many reasons to hide in the internet. The most often seems to me, not giving a too large footprint of your identity for privacy reasons.
If you have a special suspicion, who this person is, the best way of getting rid of him/her is simply to ignore. Otherwise you will play a game, whether you want or not. We are all craving attention and this man/woman got it. What a victory!!!

mercury said...

Fascinated by thsi sentence: "Fascination is the rule, disenchantment the exception"

xenonrush said...

There are many socially inadequate people creeping about on the internet who live their lives vicariously because they are unable to relate to the people in their immediate vicinity. They probably sit at their PC's wearing plastic macs and dream of other more exciting lives than the ones they actually have. In the public media there are countess opportunities for them to pursue their bovine mediocrity and avoid being real people in real lives by sifting through the vast wealth of data that is available and dreaming of being someone with popular presence by following the activities of others. If I were you I would just publish away in the sure knowledge that you are enriching the life of some poor friendless tosser who would otherwise be sitting in a dark room with a paper bag over their head.

H said...

Well said gents! WG - Unfortunately the pudding has not been over-egged. I have a very good idea of the identity of this individual, and his need for privacy is not innocent in the slightest. He's just a low-life who surfs the net seeking admiration, and unfortunately, more. If he had any decency whatsoever he would've taken his leave a long time ago.

mercury said...

Holly ~ So you cannot speak blithely anymore, because this person will use information for ambush. I don't know, whether a blog can be controlled by only admitting asked-for persons. Tim will tell you. If this is not the case you have to close down the blog.
If there is already an order of protection against this person, you should use the juridical way. If not and this person is already obvious active against you or he was in the past, you might consult a lawyer to take action.

mercury said...

Sometimes people, who are able to stir up our lives own a special psychological disorder. My son suffered several years a superior, who had this disorder. The superior was finally removed from company.
They share more or less these characteristics:
Factor 1: Personality "Aggressive narcissism"
Glibness/superficial charm
Grandiose sense of self-worth
Pathological lying
Cunning/manipulative
Lack of remorse or guilt
Shallow affect (genuine emotion is short-lived and egocentric)
Callousness; lack of empathy
Failure to accept responsibility for own actions
Factor 2: Case history "Socially deviant lifestyle".
Need for stimulation/proneness to boredom
Parasitic lifestyle
Poor behavioral control
Lack of realistic long-term goals
Impulsivity
Irresponsibility
Juvenile delinquency
Early behavior problems
Revocation of conditional release
Traits not correlated with either factor
Promiscuous sexual behavior
Many short-term (marital) relationships
Criminal versatility
Acquired behavioural sociopathy/sociological conditioning (Item 21: a newly identified trait i.e., a person relying on sociological strategies and tricks to deceive)
The disorder is explored very well and if you want, we can discuss countermeasures in a different place.
To give you more insight, watch the German video on Youtube: "Ich bin ein Psychopath". The dialogues are English, so you will understand. I came to this issue by stuff from Professor Niels Birbaumer (Uni Tübingen), a specialist for psychopathology.

Larry said...

That is how it is when you have fans that are jealous for whatever reason, and feel very inferior to you . Count it as treasure and move, knowing the slime balls ALWAYS get theirs.

mercury said...

I love the term slime balls, Larry!

Tony said...

I also approve the epithet slime balls...good choice for the deev that is stalking the blog. As Trevor points out, you do indeed have friends here Holly.

btw, loving the cake, whether dry or not it looks great, well done you.

mercury said...

Semms to be the hottest problem of a globalized world: Forced neighbourships.

Brian Miller said...

Well, all I can say is, it could be worse. South Korean intelligence, Mossad, and the NSA stop by my blog on a regular basis. Once in awhile I even get visits from Russian and Chinese intelligence. I have no idea why, so I don't worry about it.

Some folks are paranoid and they honestly believe using a proxy or a string of proxies is necessary to protect their identity from identity thieves. Sadly, just the opposite is true. People who use a lot of proxies always attract the attention of hackers and other assorted malcontents. They enjoy the challenge too much to let it pass.

Glenn said...

"If you have a special suspicion, who this person is, the best way of getting rid of him/her is simply to ignore. Otherwise you will play a game, whether you want or not. We are all craving attention and this man/woman got it. What a victory!!!"

Holly, I'm with mercury on this; best to ignore the clandestine attention of this individual. I guess it comes with the territory of all folk in the public eye to a greater or lesser extent, and not least to young, attractive, talented, female singers such as yourself. Unless a specific threat is made, I think it's a waste of your time and energy to give much thought to the IP addresses of individuals who visit this site. Incidentally, I visit this site from three different IP addresses: work, lodgings and home, but there's nothing sinister in it, it's just where I happen to be at the time. Take care and best wishes, Glenn

David Ruben said...

IP addresses can be looked up - but might cover an area or a block held by an ISP - see http://tools.whois.net/whoisbyip/ and enter the IP number. Sometimes it just identifies a previous user of the IP if it is dynamically reassigned by your ISP (if you check this Holly, I do not live in Slough !)

Proudbigsis said...

Anybody cyber-stalking Holly needs to know that she has a very over-protective and much tougher, VERY much meaner, older sister.

Trevor said...

Well said Big Sis , that is what needs to be said loud and clear . Indeed it is the only thing that needs to be said .